A friendship that transcends distance and time, with an occasional dry spell, but remains strong as ever.
“Only those who care about you can hear you when you’re quiet”
Taking time off from social media can do a lot of good. Having your senses bombarded by all sorts of news and images, from the most beautiful to the extremely disturbing, can directly affect your emotional and mental well – being. Not to mention the in betweens, where you’re super pleased that a long divorced friend is finally married but secretly turning green after seeing her new lavish lifestyle. That’s just an example. There are too many things that can rock your zen, by simply being human.
As you’re enjoying your solitude (away from all the virtual relationships) while being present, to those around you, try to take notice of what’s happening in your life. First, your attentiveness will increase, and you’ll understand why your kids get upset with you previously. Then, you’ll find spare time that seems to disappear whenever you used to be busy in the other world. Next, you’re at peace with everything because your life revolves around those who matters most. And that’s it. No dramas, no competitions, no envies, no headaches from problems that is of no concern to you. Finally, take notice of your real friends and families- the ones you actually mingle with in person. People who care will try to reach you in every possible way or stand outside your front door wondering what in the world is happening to you. They can hear your silence…
As an introvert, I find socialising on social media easier to handle than being out there rubbing shoulders with others. So, to strike a balance, I let my senses decide when I need to take a break and spend some time in ‘solitude’. It works well for me so far…
Relationships can’t be forced into becoming what it’s not meant to be. With each passing day, the weather changes and becomes more unpredictable. The relationships that we have are like that too. Some are easily affected by external factors, while others remain consistent with minor impacts that probably go unnoticed.
Knowing you’re putting in so much efforts but lacking in progress is not a pleasant feeling. It’s like pumping air into a flat tyre with a punctured tube. You keep pumping but the air disappears. How frustrating, isn’t it?
Being in a relationship requires both parties to respect and honour each other’s time, as well as effort in making it meaningful. If these needs aren’t met, it’s truly useless to pursue it any longer. There’s nothing left when you’re drained from all the trying, except a bitter aftertaste.
Don’t linger. See yourself worthy of a better person, not just a drifter who wanted a temporary shelter from the storm.
Breathe in deeply, exhale slowly.
Mindfulness matters a great deal.
Spread good vibes only.
Today was a good day, even if all you did was breathing and living.
Always have faith, and never stop believing in it.
Free your mind, body and soul.
Keep hope alive until your last breath.
Let’s coffee…coffee makes you happy. Trust me.
There’s so much truth in this. Friendship is truly a gift that you give yourself. Lucky is one who gets to enjoy this privilege to be with one or two, or a tribe of besties, who love them whole heartedly. I have mine and ever so grateful for that!
P/S Dear AJ, let’s not forget our promise when we grow old…we’ll continue to have our endless random chats from politics to husband’s antics, and have a great laugh!
A friend once asked how everything was with my life then. She found most of the posts here a little bleak and wondered if I was okay. Maybe just maybe, the dark undertones were undeniably present. Anyhow I gave the standard positive reply …things couldn’t have been any better. A huge smile plastered across my face. Yup. That was it. But that was a lie.
Why would one lie about feelings? Isn’t it easier to spill it out so the world won’t get a chance to misunderstand? What’s there to lose but a couple of minutes, or a dry throat, or a bucket of tears, or simply some dignity?
All I know is this. I’m not comfortable reaching out to others over my troubles, no matter how big or small. These battles are mine to fight and I will do exactly that. When you see me and have a hunch that I’m struggling, just do one thing. Give me a genuine smile and a warm hug, then say a prayer quietly in your head. I’d appreciate it a lot. Really.
Walk. Park. Nature. Workout therapy. 2 in 1. Balanced lifestyle. Fun. Joy. Chats. Effortless. Unpretentious. Companion. Bond. Sharing. Moments. Heart to heart. Non-judgemental. Unconditional. Dependable. Healing. Love. True. Cheerleader. Supporter. Inspirational. Mentor. Motivator. Listener. Happiness. Moody blues. Laughter. Tears. Life journey. Better half. Good times. Bad times. Could be better times. Uplifting. Sisterhood. Soul sister. Best friend. One-of-a-kind. A valued gift for life.